Here's something i learnt from a dear sister.. you need to come down to that person's level. and here's what i understood of it.

i've come to learn alot from her... never in my life had i quarrelled or argued or got accused and on the flip side.. she is the one who opened up to me.. who shared a part of her love to me.. she opened up 1st.. God used her greatly in my life. teaching me how to deal with conflicts.. cos conflicts are inevitable.. and i needed to face up to it.. and not run away. i've ran away my whole life.. me running away caused my 1st bf to be physically abusive to himself.. then to me... i saw how frustrated he was when i didn't communicate.. needless to say.. i ran away and jumped onto the next one..a vicious cycle.. as long as i dont come to terms with it.. God will never let me go without learning. and now its my turn to give.. to be there for her..

my colleague and friend stood up for me when my other colleagues bully me.. but when it came to my turn.. i didnt. i jus sat there quietly.. cos i didnt know what to do. tat incident clings onto my memory.. its been 2 yrs ago.. and ever since then.. i knew something changed in our friendship.. yes.. she has her flaws too.. but i'm choosing to focus on her good points. she was a friend.. and I want God to restore that friendship. jus like he did with my sisters and Melvin.

sometimes.. things happens in our friendship, relationship.. and we need to go back to that level.. to where we can start again.. to pick up where we left things off... my own expectations prevented me from doing it.. always lamenting on why things have changed.. why can't it go back the way it is.. truth is.. i hv to go backwards.. and work at it again..

for some.. we were never friends to begin with.. and that.. i must say is quite difficult for me. Sometimes.. i wished i could jus hear a sorry from you my dear boy.. but yet i know God doesn't allow that to happen.. cos He wants me to totally depend on him watever happens. I said I am ready to be your friend.. whenever you are. That word still counts... i don't want you to think wat you did was right.. cos it hurt me alot.. yet i know it wasn't totally your fault. God loves you alot. Truly... you are a prince in His sight.

Thank you Jesus for forgiving all of us.. Only you can restore all our brokeness..